WINE AND ROSES

So…chilling with a couple of peeps one evening…a few guys and a few chics…over bottles (of milk, lol) and chops…

There was lots of jokes and laughter…the perfect fun filled hangout…

We talked about everything you can imagine…business, politics, the terrible state of naija…and how we hope to be the ones to change things…movies, music, sex (wait, did we talk about sex? Oh yeah…we talked about how we all hope to lose our virginities on our wedding nights and abstain until then)… *gives innocent face*

Then we got to the most important…sorry, I mean, the most interesting topic…relationships!

Naturally…all the guys were suddenly SINGLE…even the two guys who had dates were suddenly ‘diplomatically’ not in any form of commitment… (you know yourselves…lol)

We began to do something…we all agreed to state one by one (the single ones), why we were single and what ended our previous relationships…It turned out to be a most interesting evening indeed!

The first guy started by saying he’d been dating a particular lady for five years…(yes FIVE…THAT’S ‘5’, BIYAR, CINQ…whatever language you use…) Please what’s that in days…Forgive my math, but that would be…errr *scratching my head* 365 days x 5 = ??? You do the math; I’m not in the mood…

Now back to the main point, what would make a five year old relationship end just like that?

His story continues…Well, they were the perfect couple, you know…happily-ever-after blah blah blah…you get the drift….He had even proposed marriage to her. Little did he know, that his so called fiance, was an awesome ________________ (you fill in the gap after my story). Well, he would always drive her (his fiancée) to the house of a certain friend of hers (a girl). Then he would go pick her up after the visit. This continued for a while…he kept on playing the role of her chaffeur, everytime she wanted to go visit this friend of hers…

But one day…what’s that proverb again? Something about the wind blowing and the fowl’s ny**sh opening? Well, this particular day, the wind blew, and it blew so strongly…that it blew the fowl into orbit.

He went to pick her up, after dropping her at her friend’s place…*clearing my throat* … Unfortunately, on getting there, she was not picking her phone. After waiting and waiting endlessly, he decided to enter the house (for the first time)…to announce his presence. Not suspecting anything, he walked up to the house and knocked.

No answer

He pushed the door open…

Walked into the house…saw a room door. And knocked…

His girlfriend, sorry, his fiancée was the one who answered…”who is that?” (Not expecting the person at the door to be her man).

She finally opened the door…and to her amazement, it was her guy! *playing action film soundtrack*… I guess this is where Bugs Bunny will munch his carrot and say “gee…washap doc”…Anyway, there was guilt written all over her face…she tried to prevent him from entering the room, but he was having none of it…There was a curtain dividing the room into two…

He marched straight to the curtain…pulled it open…and there!!!!! Behind the curtain was….

I’ll leave the rest to your imagination…(don’t be annoyed o). Well, long and short of it, is that there’ll be no wedding…

Hmmmm…what can I say? So to the next guy…Who first shook his head…and told us how he lost the only girl he’d ever truly loved the day she found out there were about five other girls who also referred to him as their ‘boyfriend’…this one ehn, na bushmeat don catch (pronounced cash) the hunter…

So…we went on and on, like the knights (and ‘kinghtesses’)…of the round table…exchanging tales by moonlight…of our various breakup stories…and inglorious paths to singledom. Just for the record, I know the word knightesses is wrong, for those of you already screaming ‘gbagaun!’ and putting their hands on their heads…

Anyway…it finally got to my turn…and I cleared my throat…to begin my own narration of what led to my current state of singleness…abi na singlehood? So…here goes my story…YOU WISH! *laughing*…I’m not about to publish that here…It would be done as an exclusive interview in a magazine for celebrities…ok, enough joking…

At the end of the day though…there was a lot to be learnt…and need I say…unlearnt?
Some of us were responsible for our single status, while for some of us…our hearts had holes, cracks and stitches put there by those we had given them to in the name of love…

I still, and will always…believe that true love exists…Not necessarily in the Cinderella, or the Shrek and Princess Fiona kinda way…But it exists…Happiness is there to be found. I still believe that the institution of marriage can be enjoyed, and not endured (God can’t be wrong, can He? After all He created marriage). Admit it! Don’t you just love it when you see a young, beautiful couple with a child, or two in their arms?

I know most of us want to be wild and free to do as we please…without being bound by the chains of commitment and the prison tag called LOVE…But trust me, in the end…and I sincerely hope it’s not too late…you would wish to have one special person…that one special person…to share your life with…to build a family with…someone you’d spend the rest of your life waking up beside every morning…

Let’s forget past hurts and heartbreaks (I know it’s easier said than done)…But let’s move on…for in the end:

LOVE IS ALL THAT MATTERS…

It should be like wine… Intoxicating…only getting better with age…

And like roses…perhaps with a few thorns, but still beautiful…

 

 

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2 thoughts on “WINE AND ROSES

  1. Cool! But pls eh….if 90% of guys r single, n 90% of girls r in a relationship…as they say, who r they going out with abeg? Lol.

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